The recent death of Luciano Pavarotti prompted me to wonder how Italians, overwhelmingly Catholic, accepted the famous tenor's famous divorce from Adua, his wife of several decades, and subsequent marriage to Nicoletta, his former assistant, several years his junior. It seems it depends on whom you ask.
I spent a few hours in the
pronto soccorso, emergency room, the other day. I waited a couple of hours before seeing the doctor, because my foot injury was not life-threatening (and is almost completely healed now). I shared the waiting room with a rather animated middle-aged woman, who, while knowing only one word of English, made herself completely understood with gestures and facial expressions. Actually, she reminded me very much of someone who might have lived in my neighborhood in South Philadelphia, back in the day. The signora was reading a magazine article on Pavarotti and after going through the motions of ripping her clothes and crying over his death, pointed to a picture of Nicoletta, made the sign of the evil eye, and repeated, "Money, money, money." It was clear to me where this woman, whose children call her Mamma Pazza (Crazy Mom) , stood on Pavarotti's leave-taking of Adua.
I got quite a different reaction today, at Sunday lunch, with Guido and Alessandra, good friends with my good friends Michael and Corrado. M & C were very anxious that I meet this lovely couple. Guido, a pathologist who was a resident with Corrado in a Rome hospital, and Alessandra, who works in the Senate in the diplomacy office, explained that most Italians, while still strongly family-oriented, are very secular in matters of the heart. I asked, munching on my portion of a
timballo of rigatoni, pancetta, tomatoes and mozzarella, if anyone they knew renounced Pavarotti because of his private life. They said no, it is simply not the business of others if people divorce and re-marry. They responded to Luciano's story with a shrug of the shoulders.
I suspect that the majority of Italians probably share this viewpoint, although I want to thank Mamma Pazza for entertaining me for a couple of hours and I hope her shoulder is feeling better.
Two quick points:
My consultation with the doctor and subsequent X-ray cost me zero, zilch, nada, niente. The intake worker asked only to see my passport.
Alessandra assured me that many American politicians were very much committed to the idea of diplomacy to deal with problems between countries. I was happy to hear that that was her experience of Americans, despite the current mess our government has made of things.